Rules about dating friends exes
Often—if not always—that ex is someone they first claimed was abusive and unstable.Seeking attention, sympathy and solace from people who are not you is a very common tactic of the psychopath.
Covert abuse is impossible to prove, because it’s always strategically ambiguous.Instead, I will be describing a very specific set of patterns and behaviors that psychopaths utilize in order to torture and control their targets.Psychopaths, like most predators, seek power and control.They once claimed that they were a broken person, and that you were the reason they were happy again.But now, they turn to private friendships or past relationships that you could “never understand”.A note before I continue: people fall in and out of love.
People find new love, before and after relationships come to an end. This section is not about these everyday occurrences—no matter how heartbreaking and unfair they might be.
They’ll ignore you to spend more time with their family, when they initially told you that they were all horrible people.
They’ll seek sympathy from an ex when a member of their family dies, and explain that they just have a “special friendship” you wouldn’t understand.
It will become a point of vanity for you to be the preferred object of their attention, to win them away from a crowd of admirers.
They manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding themselves with members of the opposite sex: friends, former lovers, and your eventual replacement.
As an empathetic person, and as their partner, you rightfully feel that they should be seeking comfort in you.